Working past Conflict  - Parenting from two Homes

 …..workshop series to create behavior change through education, conflict coaching and mediation. 

Classes begin approximately every three months or when enrollment is full. Please call 207-512-4870 or email us to find  the start date of the next class

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Being raised by divorced parents does not have to ruin a child’s life. Many parents recover from the grief and anger of divorce and return to being functioning parents. But when conflict persists it adds stress to the life of the adult parent and becomes a developmental threat to children. Most parents, when given direct instruction and support, can learn new patterns so that their children will thrive. 

Design of workshop series

This workshop series is designed to confront the four major roadblocks to returning to high functioning parenting: anger, poor communication patterns, new family designs, and logistics of complicated schedules.

The class will include time for mothers and fathers to gather in separate gender groups with a conflict coach. The facilitated conversation will identify the personal “hot” topics needing intervention.

The group will then combine to include all parenting pairs. In the combined group session the coaches will present the planned curriculum and blend in discussion on the identified hot topics. The parents will problem-solve based on the presented information and create personalized agreements for conduct change.

Agreements, unique to each parenting pair, and will be reviewed during the 6-week session. Each parenting pair will have the opportunity to schedule a meeting with a conflict coach for personal attention.

Anticipated Curriculum

Each workshop series will be adapted for the content appropriate for the participants. Generally, the workshop series will include: 

  • Session 1. Goal setting – what type of post-divorce family do you envision? History of your relationship to Divorce – individual story telling deepening an understanding of why we react the way we do to divorce stress. Three models will be taught: Co-parenting, parallel parenting, and independent parenting.
  • Session 2. Why does the other think so differently –respecting the gifts the other parent brings to you child;
  • Session 3. You can’t always get what you want…but if you try sometimes, you get what you need: The art of compromise and understanding how to set up a healthy negotiation.
  • Session 4. Communication norms – what works and what doesn't. Developing new personalized guidelines.
  • Session 5. Monkeys in the middle in the new family – setting boundaries to keep the children out of parental decisions and recognizing step parents and step sibling roles.
  • Session 6. Mechanics and Logistics: Contact schedules, holidays, finding the lost socks, and other mechanics of daily life. This includes a chance to actually mediate the issues you face.

Timing and Location of the Workshop Series

The series is a rolling schedule starting approximately every 8 weeks. The series will begin with the enrollment of no less than 4 parenting pairs (or 8 people) and no more then 8 parenting pairs or 16 people. Each session will be 2 hours long, beginning at 6pm and will be held at a facility in the Augusta area.

Application Process

The application is available here on the website, or contact Mediation & Facilitation Resources PO Box 27, Hallowell, ME 04347;  207-512-4870; www.mediateresources.com

The application is available here on the website or will be mailed to you when you email or call.

Referral:

Preference will be given to parents who are COURT ORDERED by a Maine District Court Family Magistrate or Judge. Self-referral or referral from attorneys will be accepted if both parents voluntarily choose to participate.

Intake and class selection:

will be conducted by the facilitators after receiving application. 

Fees:

Cost to each family is $350 per person/ $700 per parenting pair. The fee may be assigned disproportionately by order of the Court or by agreement. One reduced fee scholarship will be offered per session. Fee must be provided in full before start of the session. Credit card payment is accepted.

Trainer credentials: 

Christopher York, LCPC has been in practice for over 30 years. He served as director of the Crisis and Counseling Center and is a founding member of “Menswork” a cognitive-behavioral approach serving men with abusive domestic conduct. In addition to this workshop series he provides therapeutic services from his private office.

Jacqui Clark, MPA, has been working with Mediation & Facilitation Resources since its inception in 1984 providing mediation, conflict coaching and guardian ad litem services.  She has provided leadership services to not-for-profit organizations including the Family Violence Project, the Maine DHHS Office of Children’s policy and currently within the Court Alternative Dispute Resolution Services. 

For more information and application please contact:

Mediation & Facilitation Resources • PO Box 27 • Hallowell • Maine•  04347

207-512-4870   or   Email: mediate@mediateresources.com